age angst but she never dreamed her son would turn away from God and become so hateful toward her. 

At her wits end, Mom asked her ex to join forces with her and he agreed. Their alliance turned out to be a mistake.  Why?  Because they hold opposing worldviews!  During discussions on how they should handle the crisis, they ended up butting heads.  Both of them love their kids, but they rarely agree on what's best for them.  It's just as it was when they were married!  Spiritual vs. Secular…Trying to mix oil and water. 

Case #2.  Another Christian I know is living with her boyfriend.  Even though he's not a believer she's seriously considering marrying him.  He's promised to go to church with her -- "Someday, probably."  The couple has been together for over a year and he has yet to darken the doorway of the sanctuary.  I asked if she's told him that she wants her children to grow up in the Church.  Yes, they've discussed children and religion.  He assured her that he doesn't have a problem with his kids going to church -- if they want to.  So I asked what she would do if he changes his mind after they're married.  I could tell my question made her uncomfortable.  She replied sharply, "He won't."  I pointed out that most unbelievers don't care if their kids go to church.  A worried expression crossed her face. "I'll take them anyway." Translation: She wants to marry this guy so badly that she's willing to compromise her faith.  And who will suffer?  The children, of course.  Inevitably they'll be caught in the middle of a parental tug of war.  Spiritual vs. Secular…Trying to mix oil and water.

One doesn't need a crystal ball to see into this couple's future.  What are the odds that an unbelieving spouse would want his or her children to become Christians if he or she opposes Christianity?  If a couple embraces the Marxist philosophy, wouldn't they become incensed if their children became Capitalists?  You bet they would.  And a lot of Capitalists would become incensed if one of their kids became a Marxist. 

When Paul asked, "For what do wickedness and righteousness have in common?" his point was that they have nothing in common.   This is a hard principle for Christians to accept.   And many don't.  As I stated earlier, one of my family members married an unbeliever hoping that his worldview would change.  But it hasn't.  Her marriage to an unbeliever put up a barrier between her and God.  God calls such barriers "idols of the heart" (Ezekiel 14).  Our Creator desires a close relationship with His human creation.  But He will not compete with our earthly idols.   

Because of his mother's sin (going against God and marrying an unbeliever) Jack is in crisis.  He knows full well what Mom believes about heaven and hell.  Those who repent of their sins and accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior will spend eternity in heaven; everyone else will spend eternity in hell. This presents a real dilemma for Jack.  If Mom is right, Dad is destined for the fiery pit when he dies -- because he also knows that Dad thinks the Gospel message is pure rubbish. 

Although Dad believes in God, he rejects the notion that he's a sinner in need of a Savior.  He considers himself a good citizen and a good person.  He believes that Jesus lived on the earth 2,000 years ago, but He was flesh, bone and blood just like everybody else.  Jesus was not the Son of God nor was He the Savior of the world.  Sooner or later everyone ends up in heaven, even if they're not Christians. 

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